You may be yearning to know how to win your ex back. In spite of all your endeavors to stop a break up and patch up again with your ex, you might be actually precipitating the crisis. You could well be choking the situation further instead of winning back your ex-lover heart.

Are you sure you are not committing any of the ten common breakup gaffes?

Telling your ex-wife what a monumental error they are making: This does not dissuade them to stall the breakup rather they start believing what a wrong decision it was to to take you on to begin with.

Calling too soon after the break up:

Your ex-partner has made their mind up to finish your relationship and this is an indication that a big quantity of time on their own is needed and plainly a call too soon may break up this need.

Calling when you are tipsy

You have consumed a bit too much and are really letting your emotions run amok so you keep picking up the phone to try and get your ex to talk to you .... See # 2

Senging lots of unwanted email and voice mail messages: This genuinely won't help your situation and will in all likelihood just make affairs harder.

Expressing feelings of desolation and depression to your lost lover since the breakup Perhaps you are thinking that you are appealing to your ex-partner softer emotions, but actually you are showing to be exceedingly intense and showing signs of utter desperation. What you are doing is referred to as being ‘manipulative’ and this usually ends with a large damaging blow to any relationship.

Continuously debating about the separation, harping about the past and danging up memories of situations which are best forgotten Perhaps you do get yourex-partner attention and get them to speak to you but is this the best use of your precious contact time? This is really ineffective both in the long and short term and someways keeps you where you began.

Verifying your never-ending love through persistent assertions. Even if you think that your lost lover doesn't realize how deeply you really love them, evidently that is not the issue right now or they wouldn't have left. It is now time to take a fresh stock of the situation and begin to follow back steps to see what precisely is wrong with the relationship instead of believing that your sincerity could win over the situation.

Apologizing again and again and again:  Now maybe you did something wrong, maybe even really blew it by being unfaithfull or breaking a big promise. Being repentant is natural and asking to be excused is perhaps the correct action, but alas not many people know how to sincerely say they are sorry. You also don't want to make the error of saying sorry too soon. Just In Case you think you have not done anything which involves you apologising, then you are being unjustified with yourself as you are making critical compromises here and that is not a bold trait in one’s character.

Wanting a green-eyed ex?

Ok, this may work at the beginning for some psychological reason's, and maybe a little bit won't hurt as people tend to need what they can't have, but it still won't change the reasons for the break up in the first place. If all you are depending on is manipulative tactics to try and win your  ex-lover back you will end up with a pretty distorted relationship that will be even tougher to keep going for the long term.

Imploring with them to take you back:

Let me tell you something here. Anyone worth his salt and confident about him or herself would never turn that desperate, which warrants being backwards merely to get back some person in life. Now that you are aware of the common bungling which people end up doing trying to get  back their ex, it is time to view things with a fresh outlook and find which went wrong when and how and then devise methods  to correct them and then you could chalk out a more strategic plan on how to win your ex back.